Principles of Growth and Change

Key Points:

A glitter of the Personality Ethic is the "get rich quick" scheme promising "wealth without work." In all areas of life, there are sequential stages of growth and development. A child learns to turn over, to sit up, to crawl, and then to walk and run. Each step is important and each one takes time. No step can be skipped. This can be true in all phases of life, in all areas of development, whether it be learning to play the piano or communicate effectively with a working associate. It is true with individuals, with marriages, with families, and with organizations.
Admission of ignorance is often the first step in our education. Thoreau taught, "How can we remember our ignorance, which our growth requires, when we are using our knowledge all the time?"
The way we see the problem is the problem. Many people want the quick fix and do not want to endure the process, the process is where you find the answer to the problem, but you first have to endure the process to find the answer.
A new level of thinking is required when experiencing the process. Albert Einstein observed, "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them."
These writing from this book are a principle-centered, character-based, inside-out approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness. That means it starts with you first, even more fundamental, the most inside part of yourself-- with your paradigms, your character, and your motives.

We must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time. -T.S. Eliot

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